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Are you in a committed relationship, but want to take it to the next level?
Do you want to find out how to get him to propose?
Are you in love?
Do you feel like you've got Mr Right, but he won't pop the question?

Find tips on how to get him to propose, or reasons why he won't propose, or signs that indicate he may be getting ready to propose.




Maybe how his heart light needs to be green before he'll ultimately propose.

Click here For an in-depth explanation about what you can do to help his heart light change colors...

 

 

Single women to be 59.9 million in the United States alone says... New York Times

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According to Sam Roberts of the New York Times for the first time in history there are more women in the US living without a husband than with one. They tally the number of single women to be 59.9 million in the United States alone.


Women feel like they put in all the effort into a relationship while he
puts in very little. The underlying desire is “How do I get him to WANT to
contribute?”

Millions of women want to understand “Why do the men I am attracted
to treat me badly, while men I’m not attracted to treat me like a queen?”


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what makes him a man.
When that happens…a man “takes over” the forward movement of the relationship
all on his own.

Men CAN’T explain what’s going on inside of them very well…and most women don’t understand OR KNOW what to do with a man who won’t open up.

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Don't make this crucial mistake...

----->>> "Here's a much better way to get him to pop the question WITHOUT using threats and dangerous ultimatums."

Ladies do you often feel like your relationship is one-sided and that you are the last Spartan standing?

Men do you feel that if your woman give you an ultimatum you would probably leave?

If you answered yes, then you are in trouble but...

There is still hope.

Ladies I know it is a hard and a never ending process of holding your household down. I mean with taking care of the kids and cleaning the house day in and day out, while managing your Small Business from home. Things can go left in a blink of an eye, but you still feel entitled to get that RING, for all that you've been through.

Men I know that you feel like you are getting nagged and your woman is not interested in you anymore, just arguments. And the hard 14 hour days you spend working to provide for your family, only to come home to crazy ultimatums, i.e., telling him you will take the kids and leave if he does not marry you.

STOP!

This is wrong he will never marry you if this is all it takes to leave the relationship. I mean are you really showing your partner that you are in it for the long ride and that you will survive through "for better or for worse? You will never get him to commit to a marriage.

No, and in his mind he feels that you may do this ultimatum thing just to get what you want from him, despite the fact that he may not be ready.

Men women behave in this way because they love you and they feel that they have put in all this time and investment into your relationship, for it to be moving absolutely nowhere. Plus if you are serious and already playing house why not just make it official?

Very discouraging.

However, who says that it doesn't work? Ultimatums?

See you just have to know your partner to know if that would actually have some affect on him. What works for Angela may not work for Bernice.

Bottom Line: Only give an ultimatum if you're ready to hear the truth and are willing to act on it, whatever the response may be. 

Good Luck!

Renew your relationship

Dave and Carol was so in love, flirting and oh so happy. Everything was so new and exciting. They had admiration for one another and everything the other one did was just too adorable.
Then as time went on Dave and Carol were having arguments, and the nagging started.

Instead of hearing, "Your hair looks nice dear." Carol heard, "Why did you choose that style for tonight?"

Does this sound like your relationship? If you answered yes, then you should apply these tips to your life:

1. Acknowledge the fact that things are not the same.
2. Bring forth and recognize where the attraction came from.
3. Commit to one another as you did in the beginning.
4. Forgive each other.
5. Forget the past. (it's gone you can't get it back or change what happened.)
6. FLIRT!!!!
7. Make the special things your partner does center of attraction.
8. Look over the unnecessary things.
9. Be patient!

Honestly, you must work really hard and keep things fresh for the one you love. It will not be a walk in the park but it's very do-able!


What do you think?

Alone in a relationship?

Have you ever felt like you were in the relationship by yourself?

Well this one relationship I had, I felt like this every moment we spent togeher and apart.

We lived together and things just slowly began to fall apart. We would sit in a room together and not say anything and if we did say something it was a brief ?question? like, "have you seen my keys?" or "i'm going to the store, are you coming?" and then if he decided he wanted to go to the store with me I would be listening to the radio and he would put a different song on his phone.

Weird right? I know!

We had even gotten to the point where we didnt even sleep together. Yep, he slept on the floor  and I slept on the bed. We would set up an appointment to meet either on my bed or on his palate on the floor when it was time to have "relations!"

All this made me miserable. I mean...

I'M A WOMAN.

The entire point of me being in a relationship is for that tlc that women yearn for from a nice strong man. To be snuggled up against him nice and tight all night long, the feeling of being safe throughout the night. So that i wouldn't be alone, i mean the list can definitely go on and on.

But this relationship was mentally, emotionally and physically draining and I wanted out. So long story short I told him I was leaving and he didnt believe me until he came home to an empty house. That's when he decided to take the time out to ask questions and try to fix things but it was just to late.

I was "fed up!"

If you feel like this or if your relationship is getting worse than this please get out immediately, you deserve so much more, from someone that will really love you and who is really worth your time!

Good luck...until next time!

Information is NOT transformation:

What this means is that no matter what useful information you absorb, it only makes a difference if you act on it and turn it into transformation.

Example: You come here for information on getting your ex back, I tell you

• take things slow (you do not want to rush things and jump back into problems that have not been solved)
• work on one problem at a time (you cannot focus on 20 problems at once take you time and work out the big problems first, they need more attention)
• date again (this makes things fresh and exciting again!)

You leave the page, take the information but never apply the tips to your life. You have just missed out on the TRANSFORMATION that could've made your situation better.

I'm just sayin'

Because you have the information do not mean that you will put it to good use.

What do you think?





  

T-Dub J asks"Are you going to EVER forget that older lady?"

Is there something you can learn by being
robbed at gunpoint?

As t-dubJ explains in the Magic Of Making Up System now

Which you can grab < HERE! >

after your initial contact...you want to set up your
"1st Date" again.

AND...the MOST important part, the secret and
the part nobody else but T Dub will tell ya :-)...is the date HAS
to be EMOTIONALLY CHARGED.

Okay?

That DOES NOT mean 'dinner and a movie'.

because...well...it's BORING...and does not
create a bonding...or in our case a RE-bonding
experience.

In fact, you want to pack in several emotionally
charged mini-dates in a span of a couple hours.

Why?

If you just do 'dinner and a movie' you lose
out on a Sociologically PROVEN principle...

emotionally charged experiences = bond

Look at it in another way.

Last time you went to the bank, do you
remember the person in line in front of you?

Behind you?

Probably not. Me either.

But...

What if while you were in the bank, it
was ROBBED AT GUNPOINT?

and the robbers couldn't get the safe open. The
robbers are livid,  screaming and waving huge guns
around. The tension feels so thick you could
cut through it with a knife.

You are lying face down on the cold bank floor
and can see your breath fogging up the tile below.

You are trembling...because it is eerily silent
for a moment.

"Oh my god!"

"Where are the robbers?"

"Are they behind me?"

"Are they watching me?"

So you slowly move your eyes around and
see a sweet older lady lying right next to you.

She looks a little like Grandma, and you come
out of your own haze enough to realize that she
is even more terrified than you. She is softly sobbing.

You slowly reach out and take her hand in yours
and give her a little squeeze that says..."it's gonna
be all right."

NOW!

Let me ask?

Are you going to EVER forget that older lady?

and...

Do you think she will EVER forget you?

Not in a million Sundays!

Now...I'm not saying to go rob a bank on
your first date! LOL.

But you want to go on an EMOTIONALLY
charged and exciting date...and preferably several
mini-dates in a span of a couple hours.

A short roller coaster ride is one GREAT example.
T Dub teaches you more about things like emotionally
charged dates in the Magic Of Making Up System.

Click Here NOW!

You'll also discover psychological tactics and techniques
you can use to get you BACK on that first date with your
ex again.

What do you think?
                                                                                               
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Untwine your ex mind, heart and soul right now today & Make Your Ex Return Your Call

Are there 'magic' words you can use
to get your ex to return your phone calls?

Sounds hard to believe but there ARE words
that will nearly cast a spell and make your ex
feel almost compelled to return your call.

Cool huh?...

I am going to share this with you because
this is one of the biggest questions I get
from the over 35,000 subscribers just
like you that are trying to put their relationship
back together.

So I am going to answer..."How do I get
my ex to return my phone call, text or IM?"

BUT...

***********
WARNING!
***********

In the Magic Of Making Up, there's a complete strategy.

<< Get It NOW! >>

If you use this technique alone, without
an 'overall' plan or strategy...you may
damage your relationship more than if
they never returned your call.

****************
What NOT to Say!
****************

Before we get into the actual words, let's
go over what message almost NEVER
works.

and worse...

Puts you in an AWFUL 'psychological' position.
These usually fall into 2 categories.

The PLEAD- Where the message sounds like
"John, please, please call me. This is the 3rd
time I have called. I HAVE to talk to you."

And...

the EMERGENCY- "Cindy, this is an emergency. Please call me
as soon as you get this."

Now, I think you can see what is wrong with
both of those approaches?
So, I won't go on and on...

************************************
How To Use Curiosity & Self Interest
To Your Advantage
***********************************

Two of the most powerful forces in
the human mind are

*Curiosity &
*Self Interest

And here's the BIG SECRET!

When you combine the two, you
have a recipe that WILL work 'magic'
So...
Let's look at what you can say
that works nearly EVERY TIME.

In a friendly tone:

"Hi John. It's Cindy. I wanted to let
you know I appreciate what you did for
me. Call me because I want to thank you
in person."

Do you see how that uses BOTH curiosity
and self interest?

John will NOT be able to resist! "What did I do?"
"What does she appreciate?" he will be thinking. And
he feels good because it is a positive message.

Now...

Before you call you need to do the
"Set Up"...which is figuring out what
he/she did that you appreciate.

It can be any small thing...but needs to
be plausible.

But more importantly...

************
2nd WARNING!
************

Please have an underlying strategy
like in the Magic Of Making
Up System BEFORE you call.

<< Get It NOW! >>

If you apply this technique with
no underlying strategy and they
call you back you can do more
DAMAGE than good if you do not
handle it correctly.

Okay?

What I am saying is...

What you do before, during and
after you get them to return your
call is MORE important than getting
them to return your call.

Make sense?

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What do you think?

Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back With TEXT Messages?

If you want to get your ex boyfriend back, you know this has happened to you.


You stand there, looking at your phone, your thumb quivering over the keypad . . .


You want him back more than anything. You want to feel his arms around you.


You want him to apologize for everything he said and be yours again . . . to be your boyfriend again. To be your lover. To be your friend . . .


But your thumb just shakes. You think about him out there without you. Out there with another girl.
You feel this awful nausea through your whole body . . .


And you put your phone back in your pocket wondering what the heck you should say.


Well, now there's good news for you. Michael Fiore (who's appeared on the Rachael Ray show among other programs) has come up with a simple method for using TEXT MESSAGES to to drag your man back to you like a tractor beam . . . to erase all the negative thoughts he has about you and to create the relationship you've always wanted with the man of your dreams . . .


"Text messages are the closest thing we have to telepathy," says Fiore. "With the right texts you can short circuit a man's critical brain and awaken those deep feelings he still has for you in his heart no matter how hard he tries to deny them. Just send the right messages in the right order and you'll be amazed at how he 'decides' he wants you back all on his own, without you ever having to beg, cry or even hint that you want him back in your life."


Go watch this short video to learn Michael Fiore's method for using TEXT MESSAGES to bring that man back into your life (and your bed) . . . it works no matter how long you've been broken up, no matter who broke up with who and even if he's seeing someone else now.


But one quick warning: "Please, don't use this stuff if you're manipulative or abusive towards your ex boyfriend. It's very powerful stuff and I only want you to use this if you truly believe you and your ex boyfriend are meant to be together."


Here's the video link:

Click Here!
or watch it above this post!

and come back and tell me what do you think?

Popular Online Dating Activities For Men

Heads up, gents. Online dating can open up new doors of opportunities with a little help from real world dating tips that work. Spice up your matchmaking with some of these ideas.

Looks Count
Comment on how attractive she is. Yes, women do want to know they are pretty, even if they’re online and you can’t see them and have no idea. So in your communications, ask questions that would help you know, but in an unobtrusive way like – how do you wear your hair? And then say how attractive that must look.

Kindness Counts
Point out nice things or the lemonade in life – nice things the other person has mentioned, nice acts the person has done, good things on the news latterly, etc. Be upbeat, and forget those lemons in life. Even in email a person can shout, by using all capital letters. So show manners and kindness. Keep swearing, unkind remarks, prejudice, etc. out of your communications. And “do unto others….”

So add some helpful real-world tips that do work (a lot of the time anyway) into your online dating equations. And come up on the positive side of romance – and enjoy more lemonade!

What do you think?

Popular Online Dating Activities

All types of everyday activities are growing in popularity online these days like sharing photos and greeting cards. In fact, both of these even go hand in hand with online dating opportunities, one of the most popular online activities for singles today.

Before actually meeting in person, many dates get acquainted online first.

Here’s how.

Photos - As a wonderful keepsake of your budding romance, create an online photo album for your new cyber-mate.  Include digital photos of favorite outdoor scenes, pets, flowers, cars, silly moments, your computer corner or laptop, etc.  Then you’ll even have more to discuss during online dates via emails and chat rooms. Search for “photo albums” to find places that store your photos.

Greeting Cards- Regardless of where the person lives, you can mail a greeting card. If privacy and security is an issue, check into renting an inexpensive P.O. Box (check the Yellow Pages). You do not have to be an artist to make something homemade and special for the new friend in your life.  Even making a special, personalized greeting card would be appreciated and show your date that you care enough to take the time needed to make something by hand.  Search your favorite search engine for online greeting cards to send, too. They range from free to low cost and can be sent in a click.

So get online and get active! No need to risk meeting in person until you get more familiar with each other online first. So take the online plunge!

What do you think?

More Popular Online Dating Activities

A couple of popular online activities are sharing recipes and bidding at auctions. And both of these easily fit well into online dating opportunities, one of the most popular online activities for singles today.

To help many dates get better acquainted online, here’s what potential cyber-dates do.
Sharing Recipes – People get tired talking about the weather. So a popular subject to turn to is food. Sharing favorite foods and recipes helps break the ice and even forms friendships over culinary skills – or lack of – and tastes. Search your favorite search engine for “free recipes” to share. Take photos of your culinary creations and share them with your date, too.

Bidding at Auctions – Ebay auctions sell nearly anything and everything! So surf around and enter searches like the dates you were in middle school. Share cool memorabilia photos of old games and toys from when you were a child or when your parents or grandparents were little; The Dating Game, Oscar Mayer wiener whistles, The Partridge Family Album, Bobby Sherman’s Album, 45’s and more.

Online dating can be an educational and fun experience. So learn more about each other and have fun while you’re at it. Take a cyber-stroll down memory lane together and see what’s cookin’.

What do you think?

Growing Online Dating Relationships

Just like regular real-world relationships, online relationships need tending, to grow over time. Here are some quick growing tips.

1. Take time and make time. Does your online date get in touch with you regularly? Do you do the same? Neglecting virtual meetings can be considered abuse or neglect, so treat each other’s time with respect. If it’s lacking, might mean time to move on.

2. Communication needs to “feel” right for both of you. If one of you is too pushy about meeting, for instance, that can give off bad vibes. So don’t rush. Take time to learn more about each other and develop trust.

3. Respect each others privacy. Don’t share personal email addresses or digital photos online, for example, if your online date sent you the information in confidence. 

4. Share special online and offline fun times. Online – send greeting cards, links to favorite places to upload digital photos of your favorite pet, download music and video clips, post on favorite forums of interest. Offline- if you’re exchanging addresses or post office boxes, send print greeting cards and postcards, small items from your area (like a key chain with your state bird).

Tend your online relationship. Water it with care and over time it can sprout and grow.

What do you think?

Establishing Online Dating Relationships: Safety First

Online dating can be fun. But don’t neglect safety and common sense when you try to hook up with a mate. At minimum, take caution in the following areas.

Protect Your Computer

Take care of your equipment and systems before you head out into the Internet realm. You need to have a firewall and anti-virus protection for your email and for when you search websites and interact online. At the bare minimum, you may want these two solutions that are offered at no charge to home computer users (i.e. not for commercial use):

Free Firewall Download: ZoneAlarm www.zonelabs.com
Free Anti-Virus Download: AVG Anti-Virus www.grisoft.com

Protect Yourself

Take care of yourself, too, by choosing appropriate dating sites. Seek and choose a reputable online dating service.  How? Begin by asking around with friends, neighbors, co-workers and others you may know who have tried online dating, and see which places they recommend. In addition, search “online dating services” and keep a notebook of their URLs or website links, the fees, rules and regulations, complete contact information of each and any other useful information that spikes your interest. Then compare each place.  Try only those places where you feel safe. Avoid the others.
So take care. Arm your computer – and yourself- with the correct tools and knowledge!

What do you think?

Divorce, rebuilding your life, avoid sex with the ex

Divorce is something that no one wants to face.  It is a hard situation that many people have to find the strength to get through.  Sometimes there are hard feelings between the two couples and sometimes the couple will still get along very well.  It is hard to tell what is going to happen and sometimes you just have to see how it goes. The ball is in your court and you need to make the best choices that you can. 

One thing is for sure; once you are divorced, you do not need to be having an intimate with your ex.  This is not something that is wise because of the issues that will come along with it. You want to break your ties so that you are free and able to move on easily to better and bigger things. 

You will want to remain friendly with your ex.  This is for obvious reasons. When things go a lot smoother, you will find it to be a lot easier to get things accomplished.  You really can kill them with kindness however you do not want to be so kind that you are jeopardizing your health and well being for any reason.  You do not want to get involved with the complicity of having sex with your ex when you are trying to rebuild your life and make something better for your future. 

When you are trying to rebuild your life, you want to do the right things.  You need to make the right choices for you and you family so that you are not putting anyone's well being at risk. This will also include your ex.  When you are still carrying on an intimate relationship with your ex partner, you will find that you may be setting either one of you up for a very big fall.  This is not something that you should be doing at this stage of the game.

A divorce is something that can be very complicated and when you are combining sex with your ex, you are only making the situation more complicated. You need to make sure that you are severing these ties and making it very clear that you are not interested in this part of your life anymore.  You need to of course make sure of this before you file for divorce but having a physical relationship is not the only thing that matters with a marriage.  You need to have all the factors there so that you can have a successful relationship that works for both of you.

There are so many things to worry about when you are trying to rebuild your life after a divorce.  You do not want to have to deal with too much when you already have so much on your plate.  You want to be careful and make the wise decisions that you know you can make.  You have to be willing to let the physical side of your relationship go so that you can free your mind and body up for the next chapter in your life. 

There is so much life out there and when you are divorced, you are able to take it all on. You should not be holding on to the past even if it is comforting at the time.  You want to get out there are find out who you are and what your goals and dreams are in life.  This is the only way that you can make your new life a huge success.  This is going to be worth the self-control that you have when it comes to refraining from having sex with your ex. 

What do you think?

How to rebuild your life, stay away from romance movies!

Rebuilding your life after a divorce is not always easy. You will find that many things will come up and make it difficult for you to get through them. You will want to make sure that you are making the right decisions so that you are able to make the best of your new life that has been changed so dramatically.

Getting the things in life that you want in life is not always, what you get. You may have to do some things in order to make them happen.  We all do not have the life that we want all of the time. Sometimes we make mistakes and we have to deal with them. The same will go for marriages.  Some work out while others do not.  There are many people that go through a divorce and they will have to make the changes in their life that get them through their hard times. 

You should avoid some things when you are going through a divorce. You will defiantly want to stay away from romance movies. You have to be willing to stay out of any movie theater or renting any video that has any type of romance in it. You will only be making your situation worse and you will have problems that are more emotional if you do this to yourself. You do not want to make this mistake because it can make your healing process much worse than what it already is.

You will want to watch movies that are upbeat and positive. You need to find things in life that are going to make you feel good about yourself and how you deal with your divorce. You will want to make sure that you are getting out the house as much as you can.  It would be a great idea to go out with friends or with you to a movie theater. You can catch a new flick or a classic comedy from time to time and help you with your outlook on life.

The best types of movies to watch when you are going through a divorce are comedies or about people that have gone through much worse and ended on top. You want to see success stories so that you are able to keep the feeling that everything is going to be good again and that are going to get better.  It is amazing how a movie can make you feel good about yourself and the situation that you are in. 

If you are renting movies for you to watch at home, you will want to keep them light and upbeat.  Make sure that you are watching movies that make you laugh.   Invite some of your best friends over and make a big bowl of popcorn.  This is a great way to spend an evening so that you can feel good about yourself. You will want to be able to sit back and relax while watching a movie that will keep you positive and feeling good about yourself. 

You can rebuild your life when you are able to keep a good way of thinking. You do not want to have any contact with movies that are depressing in any way or sad. You want to stay focused on the good things in life and what is out there waiting for you.  When you are sure of yourself and what you are going to do to make the situation better, you will be able to come out on top. You will have a better chance at making the future better and brighter for you after a divorce if you keep those comedies coming and throw the romance movies out!

What do you think?

Creating Effective and Efficient Relationships

Relationships of all kinds are often perceived as very delicate things, that require extra effort to maintain. However, a relationship can also be something that can provide security and can also be long lasting despite many trials.

Building an effective and lasting relationships is a necessity for several reasons. For example in a group or organization, the well being of the people depends on how efficient and effective that group or organization works.

The group or organization is also dependent on how the members work well with the management.
An ineffective group or organization can really be very frustrating.  An effective group or organization can also ask so much on their members, that sometimes the members would be having no life outside the walls of the area where they work or sacrifice the other aspects of their life just to meet deadlines. For an organization or group with this kind of scenario, relationships can be stressed or suffer from breakdown.

People or other entities who depend on these groups or organization also suffer.

Society is defined as a web of relationships, which requires all parties to work and contribute their share in order to achieve  a common goal. Having a relationship that is good, where cooperation and respect are manifested, can make society work better. In this way each member works for the good of the whole and towards achieving a common goal. This can only be attained with effective and efficient relationships.

Understanding the other parties' feeling and position creates an effective and efficient relationship. The easiest method to understand what is important to another party is to ask them what they want and listen to what they have to say. When the other party realizes this, they would feel the importance given to them.

Effective and efficient relationships require parties to openly express their feelings and positions on all matters pertinent on the relationship. Assuming that the other party understands our needs and give us when we need it without asking for it is not a good practice.

Respect is the key to relationship. In order to create a more effective relationship, parties should treat each other with respect.  We can show respect just by listening to the other party and by trying sincerely to understand how they function. You can also show respect to other parties by confirming that they are doing everything they can.

The opposite of respect is quick forming of judgements based on unfounded facts and prejudice.

Respect is the very foundation for a great relationship. This also means respecting yourself and respecting others.

Another key area in forming an effective relationship is to tackle differences of the other party directly. Differences between parties or people are quite interesting. For example in a conversation where each party listens to the other party, you may observe that each is having two different perspectives.

Work towards a win-win solution for both parties.

This can be done when at least one party acknowledges that the relationship is important. That party would then exert more time, effort and energy to understand the other party's needs and deal with it to get it out of the way. Should they fail, it is comforting for that party to know that they tried.

Effectively listening and no pre-judging. This is important if parties are to understand each other.
Informal discussions are conducive for parties. They bring out issues and concerns comfortably. They also feel more relaxed making them think more clearly.

Developing an atmosphere where the other party can express their feelings when they need to.
When parties fail to express whatever is on their mind or their feelings, it can get in the way of building an effective relationship.

Parties should be aware that certain things exist naturally but should be controlled in any dealings in any relationship.  Human nature is one. Some of these things found in a relationship also include a history of stereotyping or mistrust, blaming the other person or party for a strained relationship, excluding the other party's feelings when focusing on a task, no clear and defined objectives, roles and expectations of each party in a relationship is also unclear.

Relationships are important to anyone, addressing issues and problems right away is a must to further improve the relationship. As they say 'No man is an Island'.

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How to improve your personal life and relationship

When you are trying to improve your relationship, this can be hard to do if you are not strong enough to do it. Some of the bad things that make a relationship go wrong do not trust your mate. Perhaps you have a good reason not to trust your mate but you have to forget and forgive, which can be hard to do. However, it will not get any easier for you if you do not work on the problem. It s not all your fault or your mates fault, since involvement is a 50-50 relationship. It takes two to make it work and not only one can do it so you both have to be in agreement to work on your relationship together, otherwise you are wasting life.

What are some of the things that we can do to make it better?
When trying to make a bad relationship work it can be hard to do at times. There are times when it cannot be saved at all. There has to be a good communication channel between both of you in order to even try to get along. You have to sit down and find the real reason why and where you went wrong. Try to figure something out to make it better. If you cannot communicate then you won’t be able to work out your relationship. Failure to communicate is the leading cause businesses, relationships, and self improvement falters.

Some of the things you might want to do are take time for you and your mate. Try taking a walk together and talk about the weather, or other topics that reduces stress. You want to avoid stressful subjects until you are ready to discuss your problems calmly. One of the biggest mistakes people make, is calling shots while emotions are soaring. This leads to a yelling match and no one wins.

If you learn to communicate without biting backs, you will learn to relax and control your emotions. Perhaps after you spend time together talking casual, you may feel in the mood to enjoy a romantic night together. If you have children, perhaps are family member or friend can watch the children while you and your mate go to a hotel for a romantic night.

How can one person improve a relationship?
It’s hard for one person to make changes by them self. It takes two to make a relationship grow and it has to take two to make it work. Nothing is easy. Still, it has been done and if you are strong enough you can make it though anything. You and your mate have been though some hard times. The deal is you have to improve your personal life. You cannot change anyone and for this reasons, the weight is on your shoulders to make your life better. Once you improve your life, your mate may take interest and start to improve his or her personal life. It is proven that good conduct speaks louder than any words.

How do I improve my personal life?
Improving your life takes action. The first thing you want to do is to sit down, make a list, plan and set goals to change. DO not bully you. Instead of looking at all the bad, look at the good since thinking positive is the key to success.

Once you set your goals start taking action to improve your personal life. Again, your mate may take interest and he/she too will join you in improving your lives together.

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Male Menopause Enlarged(2)

There are currently numerous debates in the medical community on whether menopause really exists in men.

Menopause in women is defined as the time when the menstrual periods cease. Based on this, men cannot have menopause. But, as the doctors have argued, they can undergo andropause — the male equivalent of menopause in women. Male who have andropause manifest the same symptoms as those women with menopause.

Male menopause is used to refer to the condition in which men experience a decrease in their hormone levels. But unlike the case of women whose hormone levels drop dramatically, male menopause takes place with a gradual fall in hormone testosterone. Medical reports show that many men in their 70's have almost the same testosterone levels as those in their 20's.

Men with menopause manifest symptoms that include irritability, sweating, memory problems, concentration difficulties, and hot flushing.

Other common complaints of men with menopause consist of low sex drive, hair loss, fatigue, generalized pains, and body shape changes as they tend to become more rounded and less brawny.

Analyzing the symptoms, it becomes clear why male menopause is compared with that of women. Women may manifest some or all of the symptoms listed.

It is important to note, however, that the symptoms listed may be caused by other physical illnesses other than menopause. Thyroid gland dysfunction, depression, or anemia may be the underlying roots.

Some doctors, however, claim that male menopause is caused not by the hormonal changes but by psychological reasons. The realization that they are ageing is underlined by the signs of physical changes such as the occurrence of wrinkles, fat and waning hairline.

Men in their middle age usually weaken their self-esteem as they begin to question themselves as to whether they still have a role in their homes and the society. An example is when their children mature and leave home; they start to feel empty and futile in the family.

Other possible psychological triggers of menopause in men include financial problems, job dissatisfaction, and marital conflicts.

It is important to note, however, that the symptoms listed may be caused by other physical illnesses other than menopause. Again, thyroid gland dysfunction, depression, or anemia may be the underlying causes.

The diagnosis of male menopause is done by running a physical exam, the doctor will inquire about the symptoms the male is experiencing. He may conduct necessary diagnostic tests to discard other medical problems which may be affecting the condition. Series of blood tests will then be carried out to analyze the patient's hormone levels, as well as the blood testosterone status.

Testosterone replacement therapy is applied if the testosterone levels are found to be low. This process also helps to minimize the symptoms such as fatigue, depression, and low libido, or poor sex drive.

Hormone replacement therapy has as well been tied to the development in the brain functions, bone density and night sweats.

Testosterone replacement comes in oral medication, implants, or injections.

The oral drugs are given to those who cannot bear implants or injections.

On the other hand, implants are placed in the lower hip or abdomen. This method provides cure that keeps going for up to six months.

The testosterone injections are typically given about once every two weeks.

If you are considering testosterone replacement therapy, it is important that you talk to a doctor to learn more about it. Your physician may also advise some changes in your lifestyle, such as an exercise program, proper diet, and medications to help alleviate the symptoms caused by male menopause.

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Male Menopause (1): A Phase Which You Should Not Miss

Hormonal change – two words which can bring significant change to an individuals’ life. Once hormonal change is brought into discussion, most people would correlate it to women. These days however, women are not the only ones who experience hormonal change, men as well. 

Menopause is the normal and natural stage in a woman’s life when her menstruation and ovulation ceases that signifies end to her reproductive years. On the other hand, andropause is a term for male menopause. Since a man does not undergo menstruation and ovulation, the reason behind for male experiencing menopause is to prepare them for second adulthood. Andropause signifies the end for men’s first adulthood. 

Women who enter their forties may begin to experience menopause. Other women starts menopause at age fifty, some even begin at sixty. Men, on the other hand, may start to undergo andropause as early as thirty-five or it can be as late as sixty-five.

While female menopause is a start for women to feel unconstructive sentiments and other pessimistic emotions, most experts believe that andropause brings positive change.

A man will go through a crucial change once he enters the andropause stage. There is inevitable change in psychological, social, interpersonal and even the spiritual aspect. Andropause denotes “the end of the beginning.”

According to research, there are a lot of benefits a man can obtain once andropause is experienced. 
Maturity is the essential benefit of man in going through male menopause. Men on their first adulthood usually focus on doing. However this time as they enter the second adulthood, they are more focused with “the being,” or “the self.” 

Career-wise, they are more inclined to accomplish their job because of “love of work” instead of going to work because it is necessary. On social relationship, men tend to look at other men as acquaintances. During first adulthood, men interact with other men as contenders. 

A man’s personal relationship also matures. He is more focused with developing happiness and intimacy with his partner. Andropause may indicate a stop in brain-draining “battle of the sexes” which may be an indication that he can give way and make his partner win on some discussion. Ego and pride are left behind. It is transformed to in-depth understanding and patience.

Men also gains maturity in a sexual relationship. Second adulthood focuses more on being sexually fulfilled compared to concentrating on different sexual performances which usually takes place during first adulthood. 

Menopause is a period in life where an individual may start to feel incomplete. Others may accordingly react to what their body dictates. Good or bad – whatever menopause may create in one’s life, you are still the one who owns your mind, body and heart. If andropause brings you more benefit, then you are of the lucky few. Otherwise, if it creates struggles in your life then it is time to acknowledge the need for help. Primarily, you need to recognize that you are undergoing change and then let your significant other know about it. Point out the necessary things they must do to help you cross the line. If things seem unbearable after exhausting all possible help within your fence, then it is time to seek help from an expert.

A successful walk in the journey of male menopause boils down to one important thing, having a good attitude.

This may be the reason you and your man do not get along, What do you think?