Male Menopause (1): A Phase Which You Should Not Miss

Hormonal change – two words which can bring significant change to an individuals’ life. Once hormonal change is brought into discussion, most people would correlate it to women. These days however, women are not the only ones who experience hormonal change, men as well. 

Menopause is the normal and natural stage in a woman’s life when her menstruation and ovulation ceases that signifies end to her reproductive years. On the other hand, andropause is a term for male menopause. Since a man does not undergo menstruation and ovulation, the reason behind for male experiencing menopause is to prepare them for second adulthood. Andropause signifies the end for men’s first adulthood. 

Women who enter their forties may begin to experience menopause. Other women starts menopause at age fifty, some even begin at sixty. Men, on the other hand, may start to undergo andropause as early as thirty-five or it can be as late as sixty-five.

While female menopause is a start for women to feel unconstructive sentiments and other pessimistic emotions, most experts believe that andropause brings positive change.

A man will go through a crucial change once he enters the andropause stage. There is inevitable change in psychological, social, interpersonal and even the spiritual aspect. Andropause denotes “the end of the beginning.”

According to research, there are a lot of benefits a man can obtain once andropause is experienced. 
Maturity is the essential benefit of man in going through male menopause. Men on their first adulthood usually focus on doing. However this time as they enter the second adulthood, they are more focused with “the being,” or “the self.” 

Career-wise, they are more inclined to accomplish their job because of “love of work” instead of going to work because it is necessary. On social relationship, men tend to look at other men as acquaintances. During first adulthood, men interact with other men as contenders. 

A man’s personal relationship also matures. He is more focused with developing happiness and intimacy with his partner. Andropause may indicate a stop in brain-draining “battle of the sexes” which may be an indication that he can give way and make his partner win on some discussion. Ego and pride are left behind. It is transformed to in-depth understanding and patience.

Men also gains maturity in a sexual relationship. Second adulthood focuses more on being sexually fulfilled compared to concentrating on different sexual performances which usually takes place during first adulthood. 

Menopause is a period in life where an individual may start to feel incomplete. Others may accordingly react to what their body dictates. Good or bad – whatever menopause may create in one’s life, you are still the one who owns your mind, body and heart. If andropause brings you more benefit, then you are of the lucky few. Otherwise, if it creates struggles in your life then it is time to acknowledge the need for help. Primarily, you need to recognize that you are undergoing change and then let your significant other know about it. Point out the necessary things they must do to help you cross the line. If things seem unbearable after exhausting all possible help within your fence, then it is time to seek help from an expert.

A successful walk in the journey of male menopause boils down to one important thing, having a good attitude.

This may be the reason you and your man do not get along, What do you think?

5 First Date Mistakes Men Make That End In Heartbreak and How To Avoid Them!

Let's face it­­ you never get a second chance to make a first impression!

That's why, if you want to take things further with a woman, you need to show
her your best on the very first date. And in actual fact, there are 5 things
that men consistently do on first dates that totally destroy their chances of
seeing the woman again, and the worst part is they think they're doing it right!

Avoid the following 5 mistakes to increase your chances of success on your
first date:

Mistake #1: Buying gifts - Bringing chocolate or flowers on
a first date isn't the best idea - especially if you've just met the woman!
She's there to get to know YOU. Women are always asking themselves "what does
THAT mean?" And in this case it's, "He bought me flowers because he likes me,
but he doesn't even know anything about me yet! A little suspicious.

Mistake #2: Being Mr. Serious - When in the presence of a
potential date, men often become boring, instead of keeping up the friendly
vibe they have with their friends. They won’t make jokes or laugh with the woman,
they won’t play around like they do with their friends and they generally take
things a little too seriously. Why do men change their behavior around women,
often without even realizing they’re doing it? Because they fear losing their
only chance with the girl of their dreams, they try and play the safe side,
which results in a “Mr. Serious.”

Mistake #3: Conducting an Interview - When men become "Mr.
Serious" they often fall into "job interview conversation mode." Make sure you
reserve questions like, "So where do you work?" or "How many brothers and sisters
do you have?" for the future, after you've already had a lot of fun and made
the sparks fly. Instead, talk about your hobbies, interesting stories and fun
stuff. Avoid anything too deep for a long period of time. On a first date, it
can make things a little depressing. Talk like you've known each other for years
(as if you don’t need to do the awkward 20-questions quiz.) Of course you can
ask basic questions, but never make it the main focus of your date. Focus on
fun.

Mistake #4: Being too needy and direct - Without realizing
it, many guys turn their dates off by trying a little too hard. For example:
Men will lean into a woman’s personal space, and ask, "so do you like me?" or
constantly change his opinion to seek her approval and make her like him. Big
mistake. Ironically, it's leaning back, staying cool and calm, being a little
cheeky, interesting, mysterious and comfortable with yourself that actually
gets a woman's attention and keeps her interested.

Mistake #5: Going to boring places - If your date finds the
night boring, you're finished. When it comes to having fun on first dates, nothing
is more important than what you do. And while dinners and movies are nice, it's
really hard to leave a great impression in these settings. Why? Because they
set a very "proper tone" that's hard to turn into fun and playful. And unless
you're a super funny, intelligent and interesting guy, dinner and movie dates
just aren't the best place to take your date. Instead, go to fun places like
mini-golf parks, carnivals, parks, or even better, come up with your own unique
and fun ideas.

So in essence, while there are many factors to having a successful date, a
great date idea really helps you do many of them naturally! Remember, where
you take a woman on a first date can be the difference between a great night
and a dating disaster! Choose wisely!

Can you really save your relationship with Text Messages?

Do you think you “don’t have time for romance?” Relationship expert Michael Fiore thinks you’re wrong… in fact, he says he can show you how to bring all the romance, love and even passion you’re missing back into your relationship, simply by pushing a few buttons on the cell phone you have in your pocket or purse right now.

“Digital Telepathy”

“Text messages are the closest thing to telepathy we have” says Fiore. “Simply by pushing a few buttons on your cell phone you can create a private little fantasy world between you and your boyfriend or girlfriend, husband or wife … where you can say or do anything without anyone else having a clue.”

He Made Rachael Tingle

Michael Fiore and his “Text The Romance Back” method have been featured on national television and radio including appearing on “The Rachael Ray Show” on Valentine’s Day, where just one of Michael’s “Magic” texts gave Rachael “tingles” and had the whole audience oohing and ahhing.
Go watch this short video to learn how to use tiny little text messages to bring the spark and electricity back into your relationship (even if your man is a “Romantic Numbskull” or if your woman is an “ice queen.”) It’s worked for thousands of couples around the world, and Michael Fiore guarantees it will work for you.

Don't forget to let me know "What DoYou Think?"

This is a very STRONG WOMAN!

Hello, everyone!

I came across this site where this woman has been through hell... http://romance-n-relationship.blogspot.com/ ,
and I have decided to post my comment on my blog to spread the awareness of what many women go through.

Long story short her and her ex-husband do not see eye to eye, and he doesn't want their 6 month old baby and treats her like crap.

My Comment:

Doris, you do not need him and if you feel that strong about your monthly allowance then you should take him to court.
You are absolutely right, he should not run away from his commitment but that's where women do mess up because a man will only do to you what you allow. And once you allow it there is no going back.
Once you have a child, that's usually the time the man is being tested and when you will find out if he is a BOY or a Man.
You need to be the QUEEN that you are and take control of the situation and maybe give him some ultimatums, as he's shouting his arrogant terms you come back at him with... (whatever terms you want).
He's not being a man about the situation so he do not even deserve to demand anything.

Doris...Please Buck up!

You have been too nice...

Having a newborn is stressful enough and you do not need to be dealing with a grown man and his crap.
Exactly!!!!

You deserve better and you just need to do what you've been doing, taking care of your little boy and yourself and someone who will have the three traits you're searching for (love, respect, and understanding) will come along.

The Key to this is Patience!

You most likely will not have to tell your son that his father is dead, in a few years you may have found the man of your dreams that will embrace your son as his own and that will be his father and your ex-husband will just be the sperm donor of the past!

I wish you the best of luck!

Readers you know the routine...What do you think?

10 things Men dislike about Women: Response

According to http://josephekwu.wordpress.com/ there are 10 things men hate about women.

1. Men hate the way women jump to conclusions and assumptions without knowing all the facts surrounding the situation.                                                                                                                          Response: I do this because by this time my man has already let me down so many times that we can no longer offer them the benefit of the doubt. And once he clouds up the facts until they start sounding too good too be true I have already began seeing strait through him!
2. Women love to make plans without consulting us first, just as we think that we are going to have a handy weekend and just relax ourselves.                                                                                            Response: I make plans because when we ask "babe, what do you want to do for the weekend?" I get "nothing, it's up to you." So it's up to me especially if the guy works the entire week and think he's gonna rest the entire weekend, the man still has to make time for family time!
3. We don’t want to know your every step of the day.                                                                    Response: In this situation I may have missed my partner and I ask him how was his day and he tells me and then I follow with a "guess what happen to me today etc," sometimes telling what happen in order until the incident occurred jogs your memory of how everything went.
4. We hate your total disregard in our input in decisions.                                                                    Response: Every bit of advice may not work for everyone and if  I am given advice on how to handle something that night and go to sleep I probably have thought of 1000 other ways to handle it in my own way by the time I actually go to handle it.
5. We hate the way you question everything we do, we cannot leave the house without telling you where we are going…                                                                                                                                   Response: Men and women have the traditional code language that only the same sex understands. We just would like to know where you are going what is the big problem? And back to the code men may act like they don't want to know but after a hour of us being gone who's calling the cell? yes, the man is calling to find out where you are! Example:he may not say where are you going before you leave but when you get the call he says something like, "are you having fun, sounds loud" that's just a way to find out where we are.
6. Don’t ask us what clothes go with what because we can’t tell you, we don’t know what you mean     Response: this goes with number 4. We ask your opinion when we think it matters most, if you like how we look in something we know at least 8-10 other man may also find it attractive.
7. Men hate shopping, especially clothes shopping.                                                                               Response: So why do you volunteer to come? Be honest and don't say to help...more like just to complain.
8. Stating the obvious is another great trait of the female of our kind.                                               Response: I especially do this because my partner will ask me where something is and be sitting right in front of it. Instead of first looking he ask, I 've gotten anoid with this and stop answering him until I have seen him look thoroughly. So now, occasionally I will say "your pajamas are on the bed" just so he don't even get the chance to ask me.
9. We hate interruptions if we are doing something, women will call men from the other room and expect us to go to them if they want to talk to us.. Beckoned to attention like a dog would be..                          Response: It is polite to just step out and address the issue right away, this is part of good communication. If we came out and started saying your business in front of everyone then we're acting crazy. We do not mean for it to sound as if we are calling a dog. Just trying to get the issue resolved quickly.
10. Women give out about the toilet seat being up constantly.                                                                Response: you should already know why this is such a big deal for women just for the fact that when you leave the toilet seat up we fall in the toilet "SPLASH"! if we leave the seat up nothing happens to you! Just be curtious. 

I wonder what's next?

What do you think?

Happy Mother's Day Ladies!

This is my first Mother's Day and I am excited, I love my daughter to death!

Today my dear sweety made me breakfast, pancakes, eggs, and bacon yum.

My little girl (her name is M'Kylee by the way, pronounced ma-ky-lee), at only 8 months ate her very first pancakes. Did she love it? Yeah, she screamed when I was trying to take what she had dropped in her chair.

I also have my two step daughters with me, it's gonna be a very hectic and adventurous day.

"HUH?"

I have to go, but leave a comment talking about your mother's day. What do you think about mine thus far?

Is it okay?

I been thinking and wondering...

Is it okay to allow your partner to be friends with his ex?

What do I think?

I think maybe? Yes, because as long as I am doing my womanly duties as his girl then I have nothing to worry about. No, because what could they possibly be talking about? Day to day stuff and old memories. I would not like the idea of them mistakenly rekindling any feelings while remembering past times. Big mistake!

However, I do believe that everyone needs closure and if that his way of closing it then give it time and go from there.

I have been in this situation where I was nice enough to allow my bf to remain friends with his ex, only to find out down the line they had begun secretly dating. Whoo! was I pissed but I knew I had left myself open to this stupidity. My fault, I won't get fooled again.

So...

What Do You Think?