That's why, if you want to take things further with a woman, you need to show
her your best on the very first date. And in actual fact, there are 5 things
that men consistently do on first dates that totally destroy their chances of
seeing the woman again, and the worst part is they think they're doing it right!
Avoid the following 5 mistakes to increase your chances of success on your
first date:
Mistake #1: Buying gifts - Bringing chocolate or flowers on
a first date isn't the best idea - especially if you've just met the woman!
She's there to get to know YOU. Women are always asking themselves "what does
THAT mean?" And in this case it's, "He bought me flowers because he likes me,
but he doesn't even know anything about me yet! A little suspicious.
Mistake #2: Being Mr. Serious - When in the presence of a
potential date, men often become boring, instead of keeping up the friendly
vibe they have with their friends. They won’t make jokes or laugh with the woman,
they won’t play around like they do with their friends and they generally take
things a little too seriously. Why do men change their behavior around women,
often without even realizing they’re doing it? Because they fear losing their
only chance with the girl of their dreams, they try and play the safe side,
which results in a “Mr. Serious.”
Mistake #3: Conducting an Interview - When men become "Mr.
Serious" they often fall into "job interview conversation mode." Make sure you
reserve questions like, "So where do you work?" or "How many brothers and sisters
do you have?" for the future, after you've already had a lot of fun and made
the sparks fly. Instead, talk about your hobbies, interesting stories and fun
stuff. Avoid anything too deep for a long period of time. On a first date, it
can make things a little depressing. Talk like you've known each other for years
(as if you don’t need to do the awkward 20-questions quiz.) Of course you can
ask basic questions, but never make it the main focus of your date. Focus on
fun.
Mistake #4: Being too needy and direct - Without realizing
it, many guys turn their dates off by trying a little too hard. For example:
Men will lean into a woman’s personal space, and ask, "so do you like me?" or
constantly change his opinion to seek her approval and make her like him. Big
mistake. Ironically, it's leaning back, staying cool and calm, being a little
cheeky, interesting, mysterious and comfortable with yourself that actually
gets a woman's attention and keeps her interested.
Mistake #5: Going to boring places - If your date finds the
night boring, you're finished. When it comes to having fun on first dates, nothing
is more important than what you do. And while dinners and movies are nice, it's
really hard to leave a great impression in these settings. Why? Because they
set a very "proper tone" that's hard to turn into fun and playful. And unless
you're a super funny, intelligent and interesting guy, dinner and movie dates
just aren't the best place to take your date. Instead, go to fun places like
mini-golf parks, carnivals, parks, or even better, come up with your own unique
and fun ideas.
So in essence, while there are many factors to having a successful date, a
great date idea really helps you do many of them naturally! Remember, where
you take a woman on a first date can be the difference between a great night
and a dating disaster! Choose wisely!
