Ever Said The WRONG Thing?

Have you ever wished you had the "right" words to say in a
difficult relationship situation where you just didn't know the right thing to say?

Have you ever said the WRONG thing to someone (possibly even to your spouse or partner) and then wished you had said something different or regretted what you said later?

Have you ever "not said anything" to someone about something because you didn't know what to say or how to say it?

Of course you have.

We ALL have.

Now you don't have to worry about what to say or how to say it to your spouse, partner or lover ever again because of "Magic Relationship Words" that you can begin using in just a couple of moments.
You've been in enough relationships to know that...

"Words Can Hurt and Words Can Heal..."

What you may not know is that there are actually "Magic Words" that smart couples use to create more closeness, connection, peace, harmony, understanding and even passion in their relationships.

Most people in relationships don't know about these words and how to use them but my friends--Relationship Coaches Susie and Otto Collins have put together a new book (that I highly recommend) with a collection of 101 of these "magic words," phrases and sentence starters in it that you can begin using in your relationship right now to make sure you say it right every time.

What will learning these "magic relationship words" do for you?

One person who just saw them said..."If I learn how to use these words, my Husband and I will have had our last argument." I believe that if you start using these magic words they can work miracles in your relationship or marriage.

No Kidding.

Using these magic words when you talk to your
spouse or partner will help you...

~ Build or rebuild trust
~ Reduce or eliminate jealousy
~ Improve communication
~ Increase connection
~ Create more passion and intimacy both
   in and out of the bedroom

AND Much More...

These "magic" relationship words, phrases,
and sentence starters are true communication
difference-makers that can determine the quality,
happiness and connection of not just your
intimate relationship or marriage but all your other relationships as well.

They can be the difference between whether
someone opens and listens to you or closes
up, gets mad or just ignores you.

What Do You Think?

Is He Cheating Or Benefit of the Doubt?

Cheating in a realtionship cause a person to be dishonest, disloyal, etc. It just shouldn't be done!

Benefit of the doubt in a relationship is an opinionated way of looking at the uncertainty of a situation.

Now on to the...

Scenario: One day I decide to pretend like I was walking out of the house, so I closed the door and stayed extremely quiet. Then my boyfriend (not the one i'm with now) phone rings and he answers "Hey how are you, what are you doing?" I didn't think nothing of it. Then he starts laughing and making jokes but in his sexy voice so I began to wonder. Who is that?  Why is he talking as if he were talking to me? Is this what he does everytime I walk out of the door?

So me, being a smooth criminal, I open the door and pretend to rush in and say "Have you seen my phone, it was on the table?" He tells the person on the other end of the phone, "I'll call you back!" and he then hangs up.

So i'm walking around the house pretending to look for my misplaced phone that is right in my pocket, and I yell "Got it!"

So he gives me a kiss and Rushes me out the door, suspiciously I might add.

Anyways long story short I gave him benefit of the doubt, didn't think nothing of it and left the situation alone.
That was until...
A week later when...

I noticed he let his guard down one day, he went to work and left his phone home.

I went through his phone and he was indeed cheating. How do you know? you ask!

Late night calls to and from that number, I called the number and asked for some random person and to my surprise it was a woman that answered.

Finally I could not take it anymore and called her and asked for him, she said he was not there and asked who I was. I told her I was his girlfriend and was looking for him.
She then told me who she was and that they had been dating for 4 months.

Again smooth criminal... We came up with a plan to case him up, it went down the following week at my house. He was caught and didn't have nothing to say.

I gave up a cheating boyfriend and gained a friend!

Has this happen to you in any way, and was he cheating or did you give him benefit of the doubt?

Now tell me what do you think?

Should I be upset?

I am pretty laid back in my relationship, especially since I've had my daughter. I love my boyfriend but I won't die if we break up. I have my daughter and she will remind me everyday of the good times I shared with her dad.

However...

Scenario: My boyfriends' babies mama has a boyfriend and she only seem to call him about the kids when her boyfriend is at work.

Personally this is sneaky if she had let go of her feelings for my boyfriend then she would call him about the kids while her man is around, and she wouldn't keep using the kids as an excuse to talk to him. Okay and even if she has let go of her feelings for him then this becomes a maturity issue.

sn: She doesn't like the idea of me being and having a child by her ex (a.k.a. my boyfriend).

She just turned 29 and I always had the notion that women are more mature than men but in this case I am proved wrong.

Now usually this doesn't bother me but it does bother me when she calling after 10 p.m. and making up stories about her kids just to have something to talk about.

My boyfriend doesn't answer after 10 just because he knows it's her and her non-sense!

I love the kids and wish they were not subjected to such childish behavior! Enough is Enough!

What do you think?

Thinking of Tying The Knot? 5 Tips To Make Sure You Stay Together.

Did you know that love does NOT conquer all?

You see, often people get married with the idea
that their “chemistry” or undying love for each
other will keep them together forever.

However, with almost 50% of marriages ending in
divorce these days, it’s obvious that this isn’t
the case. Therefore, it pays to know a few little
secrets before getting married.

Here are 5 tips that help keep couples together
long after tying the knot:



TIP#1 -- CONTINUE DATING

Over the years, people often drift apart or
relationships and marriages become stale because
couples fail to do new and special things together.

That's why going on new and refreshing dates is so
important. In fact, there is something about
“dating” that creates a sense of magic in a
relationship and can even bring relationships out
of a rut.

While on a date, you also put more effort into your
appearance, have more uninterrupted time to
communicate on a deeper level and are naturally
drawn closer together.

Stuck for ideas? Spend the day at the aquarium,
zoo, museum, carnival, bookstore, beach or park.



TIP#2 -- DELAY IS OFTEN BETTER

It’s a well-documented statistic that couples who
have dated for a year or longer before marriage
have a significantly lower rate of divorce than
those who married after a short dating period.

A year of dating gives time for many emotions to
surface and many character traits to be discovered.
You may adore someone in the spring, but despise
him or her in the winter.

Asking someone for his or her hand in marriage on
the third date isn't romantic. It's gambling.



TIP#3 -- ALWAYS EXPRESS YOUR LOVE

Oftentimes, as a relationship matures, partners
tend to stop praising each other because they
'assume' their partner already knows what they're
thinking.

When in reality, a day should never go by without
you praising your partner. Compliment them on their
cooking, reaffirm that they're the greatest person
in the world or tell them they’re a wonderful role
model. If you want to be loved and romanced by your
sweetheart, love and romance them first. When
they're feeling loved, it is much easier to love in
return.

Are you a super supporter of what your mate does
and says? So do you cheer them on and praise them
constantly? Or do they constantly hear boos or
silence?



TIP#4 -- TAKE TIME TO UNDERSTAND YOUR PARTNER

Couples with the most problems are often the ones
that say, "I just don't understand him/her."

So let me ask you: How knowledgeable are you about
your mate's profession or the degree they are
pursuing? Do you know anything about his or her
family heritage? Are you able to have a meaningful
conversation about her cross-stitch hobby or his
interest in rugby? If you are a man, do you fully
understand what women experience during PMS or
menopause?

You don't need to be identical, but make an effort
to learn about the things that interest your
partner in life and you'll grow closer as a result.


TIP#5 -- ANSWER THE *BIG* QUESTIONS

Does your partner want kids? Do you both want
careers? Do they have a history of spending their
way into debt? Do they go to church?

In my opinion, the biggest reason almost half of
marriages end in divorce is because couples fail to
ask each other the right questions BEFORE they get
married.

I guess people think they'll be able to change
their spouses after marriage and everything will be
better. Wrong. If you fail to sit down and discuss
finances, religion, sex, housing, your future, and
other topics in great detail, you could end up with
nothing but argument after argument for the rest of
your days.

In the end, if you both have completely different
views, desires and goals in life, there’s no
guarantee that chemistry or "I love you’s" will
help you stay together.

Make it your utmost priority to understand each
other 'inside-out' BEFORE you take that walk down the aisle.

What Do You Think?

(note: if you choose not to purchase "1000 Questions For Couples," That's fine just stay tuned for 33 of 1000 Questions for Couples, this should still help you and your partner along the right path!)

WHAT TO DO?

Have you ever been in a relationship with a man that has kids that disrespect you because their mama don't like you, or the fact that you are dating her ex?

I think I may have just called out at least 80% of women.

From experience I know what this is like.

Scenerio: One day I ride with my boyfriend to go drop something off to his kids and they don't speak to me for the first 10 minutes, in which he had to actually say "you're not going to speak to kat?" All because their mama tell them not to talk to me which is just plain ignorant.

I never disrespect her, I buy her kids clothes, toys etc whenever I buy my daughter something but yet she still find it in her mind to tell them to do this.

And what makes it worse is my boyfriend is hesitent when it comes to letting them know that what they are doing is wrong.

How will them kids ever know right from wrong when the mama is teaching them wrong and the daddy isn't teaching them nothing?

My daughter will be 6 months on Tuesday the 15 and I have already been teaching her manners. "Thank You!," "Sorry!," "Hello," "Bye" etc. I hope once she gets older she don't feel it's alright to disrespect her sisters mom  just because they disrespect me.

So of course now I ask...

What Do You Think?

Why is it okay?

Hi,

"Why is it okay for a man to do whatever he wants whenever he wants in a relationship but a woman has to be on her best behavior all the time?"

I have yet to find an answer to this question but I have a theory.

Men have to remain as the Alpha-Dog, being in control of anything possible in a relationship to hide their true fear of commitment.

Everyone knows that in the real world women control almost every aspect of a relationship. Only because an unhappy woman = very unhappy man!  Some men would call it a sure way for them to get out of commitment and back on the market.

So I ask What Do You Think?